Is it hell’s-front-porch hot outside where you live? Like, so hot you don’t want to do anything, let alone something that will work up a sweat? Ideally, your sex life stays hot and heavy all year long — but in the dog days of summer heat, getting steamy with a partner without feeling sweaty and swampy is easier said than done.
Let’s start by setting up your room for summer sex success. You’ll want to keep a fan by your bed, crack open a window, or have your AC set to a temperature that feels right to both you and your partner. And make sure to keep a favorite toy or two at the ready, in case you start to get fatigued or things are getting too sticky with your bodies pressed up against each other.
Hydration is key too. If you sweat during sex, you’re losing fluids and electrolytes, which can set you up for fatigue or even muscle cramps (not exactly sexy). Make sure to hydrate with plenty of water before, after, and even during sex if you’re feeling parched.
Beyond those prep steps, you can also play around with positions that work with the weather (lazy, cuddly, using cool, flat surfaces, embracing creativity) rather than against it, to get you and your partner feeling amazing. It may even be worth experimenting with some cold shower sex or cooling sex toys during an intense heatwave.
Here are the best hot-weather sex positions that’ll bring the heat in a good way, while also keeping you cool and breezy.
Kneeling Oral
One form of sex that doesn’t require sweaty bodies grinding on each other? Oral. Kneel on a cold tile floor (you may need to use a pillow for your knees), or take this one to the shower while you go down on your partner. You can swap places when you’re done to make sure everyone’s feeling hot and satisfied, while also feeling cool and not at all sticky — or take this opportunity to try out some new oral sex positions to make each other squirm.
Standing Doggy
An old reliable, doggy lets you and your partner enjoy all kinds of depths of penetration from behind. Now add in the fact that you’re both standing instead of pressed into the hot sheets, and you’ll get a lot more air circulating around both of your bodies and less peeling yourself off one another post-game. You can try this one in the shower too, if you want an extra cooling effect.
Butterfly
A modified missionary move, butterfly lets the partner being penetrated lay back against a surface with their partner between their legs. It’s a great time to use something cool and flat like a table or a counter, or even some fresh cooling sheets — you can also prop things up with a pillow or sex wedge! If the penetrated partner puts their legs over their partner’s shoulders they can get some deep, controlled stimulation, plus a little extra airflow between bodies.
Reverse Cowgirl
Reverse cowgirl is a great position for when the partner who is being penetrated wants to take charge. They can straddle their penetrating partner and have full range to grind and thrust while providing an amazing view from behind. If you want to embrace the power of being on top without pressing every inch of your chests together, this is probably a great move to have in your repertoire.
Steamy Spoon
Many of the sex positions here focus on maximizing sensation while minimizing body-to-body time. But spooning can actually be a good fit for a summer sex sesh if you’re someone who really wants to feel close to your partner but wants to conserve energy when the heat saps your strength. Have the penetrating partner slide in from behind, pressing their front against the other partner’s back.
From there, lazy thrusts, grinding, and freeing up your hands for exploring are a few of the perks of spooning with your lover. And on a hot day — like those balmy mornings where you’ve already kicked the sheets down the bed — enjoying a good spoon can be a great way to work smarter and not harder.
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